Why You Feel Stuck in Life

It seems to be a given in our world that for many people as they grow older life seems dull, meaningless or even pointless, as there are certain points in our life where we hit a brick wall and become unable to move forward for whatever reason. No matter how much we try or want to change things for the better – we feel stuck. It’s one of the hardest things in life to experience, to feel as if though nothing matters, that your efforts are wasted, unrecognised or buried within and not knowing how to turn things around and overcome those never-ending obstacles. We have all been there or at some point at least will be, sometimes for just a very short period of time, sometimes a little longer and in other cases even years. It isn’t something to be ashamed of as life is complicated and so are human beings; life isn’t one straight line and it’s not meant to be one (what a relief)!

Our universe and life itself is multi-faceted in so many ways that we sometimes forget how small we actually are compared to what we are a part of. Knowing this it’s ridiculous that we often think we need to have things all figured out and easily get into panic–mode when we feel we don’t know all the answers, but how do we really know if we really are meant to have it all figured out? If we really were meant to know each step of the way beforehand, what would be the point of living? There would simply be no purpose in being here and creating our daily life experiences. “The magic is in the doing” is one of the greatest quotes that’s found in my favorite book series by Francine Oomen, a Dutch author mainly known for her children and young adolescence book literature. She is most famous for her “Hoe Overleef Ik…?” series (English translation: “How Do I Survive…?". It’s a wonderful and beautiful quote because the essence of it is so deep and powerful and it speaks the truth, that the magic really is in the doing. The journey to the destination is what makes the destination so special, as the journey brings value to the end result. When the journey isn’t as easy and we need to work harder for things, we tend to value our accomplishments a lot more. We need to stop viewing being “stuck” as something that’s inherently wrong - because I’ve seen it many times with myself and others – those moments of doing “nothing” are often the greatest catalysts for big changes and complete life transformations. Typically, it’s in those moments where people discover their true power and unlimited potential.

We as people always lean to one specific side of the pendulum: either we are the person we want to be who’s on track with their purpose, dreams and goals or we’re not. There really is no in between when it comes to that and that’s not just or necessarily a mind-set but the reality. All of our daily life choices stem from our previous mind programming and thus if you want to change anything in your life, you simply change the programming. You might think: “well, that’s easier said than done” and the answer is “maybe”, it essentially depends a lot on this one thing and that’s --> consistency. Your subconscious mind is constantly running a habitual program and it has been running its course ever since you were born and put on this planet. You are only half, if not more, the way you are because of the information your environment fed you ever since you were a conscious being, that means even before birth! You were exposed to all sorts of impulses of information while still being in your mother’s womb. Every one of us essentially are more like walking programs and much less actually conscious than we would like to admit. That all said, consistency is the key to changing all mind programming. It’s so simple; the more you repeat a habit, the more it becomes a part of you and the less you repeat a habit, the less it becomes part of you, until it fades away completely and it no longer resonates with you. Many individuals make the mistake of quitting too early in attempting to changing their habits or routine and as a result fail to make lasting changes in their personality and lifestyle. Just analyse and test it for yourself: do something every day for 30 days and see what happens. You will notice that you start viewing yourself differently, that you will attach yourself to a new personality and start behaving as that new person while slowly letting go of an old identity. The only thing that is most required to changing your life from being stuck to unstuck and happy and free is consistency with all your important practices and if you want to be guaranteed to have lasting success, you must practice daily consistency.

How I know so well that this “technique”, regime or lifestyle works is because I once had a similar way of going about my work and daily routine. About 1,5 – 2 years ago, I had a period in my life where I was very devoted to my work and building this website (I am now more focused on other things that require my attention), that I was writing and posting articles almost every day for a while. It required very little effort for me to do so and the more I did it, the more I enjoyed it. However I had to reach a certain point until I felt it became effortless. At the beginning I almost hated that I “had” to do it but I forced myself anyway and became happy and proud of myself afterwards for enduring and pushing myself. I remember some of my friends complimenting me and being stunned with all the time and energy I put in my craft and I also knew they were in awe and inspired. I knew that secretly, they wish they could do the same or at least be able to have the motivation to create something of their own that has real value and is of service to the world or others around them. It goes to show that not only does showing up for yourself consistently and sticking to (daily) positive habits grow your own confidence, motivation and skills, it inspires others to do better and do the same as well!